Divorce mediation is about you and your soon to be ex-spouse deciding your own divorce and what is best for the both of you and most importantly, your children.

Pakpour Banks LLP attorneys are professionally trained mediators who will work with you and your spouse through the issues you need to resolve so the two of you can end your marriage as amicably and cost effectively as possible.

This includes dividing your assets, establishing child custody and visitation orders, setting support, and planning for retirement and tax consequences.

Pakpour Banks LLP practices what is known in the industry as “facilitative mediation.” This means that it is the attorney’s job to help you and your spouse reach your own solutions, and achieve your own dreams, rather than drawing the picture for you, and guiding you towards an outcome you may or may not really desire.


Many individuals choose mediation because they perceive it to be simpler and less costly than litigation. On the latter, they are absolutely correct. In the end, mediation is almost always the cost effective choice over litigation. As for simplicity, mediation is typically less stressful, but it still requires a great deal of work.

Keep in mind: the point is to come to an agreement with someone who you obviously find it hard to agree with anymore. That can be a challenge. It’s my job to help you overcome it, and we will. That means keeping the lines of communication open, brainstorming ideas, testing you, teaching empathy and assisting you in your decision making process. This also means keeping you focused on the issues at hand, and staying on track.

Litigation is a rigid process with long-established rules that cannot be changed.

Mediation is flexible and confidential. It gives you and your spouse a way to settle the conflict between you in a way that helps you to work together as parents, even if your children are now adults.

A divorce mediator is neutral and doesn’t “work” for either parent. That means the mediator can not give advice to either party. I must remain neutral, no matter the situation.


What the mediator can do, though, is assist the divorcing couple in formulating ideas that can eventually lead to agreements that will stand the test of time. That open and free exchange of information frees up both spouses to negotiate with each other in confidence. Because both spouses are working with the same base of information, it usually takes far less time to negotiate a resolution that makes sense to both spouses.

Mediation is voluntary. It continues only for so long as all three of us – you, your spouse, and the myself – want it to. Mediation sessions can be conducted weekly, every two weeks, monthly or how ever often the couple wants them to be.

It is not unusual to be participating in mediation and marriage counseling at the same time.